Wow. It’s JULY.

Can you believe it?!?!

Time has seriously flown, I find myself waking up every morning wishing for more hours in the day or for the seconds to simply slow down.

July also means we’re headed into the last half of 2017. Six months ago I posted about my ‘this time next year’ challenge, and there were so many people who got involved. Sending me their goals, secretly written down and sealed in envelopes for me to store away until the end of the year.

I thought today was a good opportunity to have a think about my own and see how I was getting on accomplishing mine.

Got to admit… it’s not going great.

Six months in and I am no way near hitting my goal for the year. I’m not going to lie, I’m pretty disappointed in myself. For years I have set myself lists of objectives and I normally get through the majority of them. This year I simply challenged myself to one thing, just the ONE and I just can’t seem to do it!?!

So. I’ve decided I need a new plan of action.

Usually at a time like this I would be looking for ways to motivate myself. Kick start my brain into thinking “you can do this. You can do anything” but for this particular task, that approach is beginning to seem wasted.

Maybe I need to instead turn to why I’m not achieving it. What’s stopping me?

Are the factors that are stopping me from doing it greater than my will to succeed?

Surely that can’t be possible??

As it happens, I don’t believe it is possible, BUT I do believe that looking into my failings could actually be the key to winning this fight against myself.

Literally by chance, fate fed me a sign that I was finally on the right track.

As I worked through my morning chores, my TED app playing in the background, a talk by Tim Ferriss caught my attention instantly as he explained when it came to hard choices in life, we should be looking towards defining our fears rather than our goals.

And there it was. The answer to what I was struggling with. The challenge I set myself this year is very much more about addressing my failings rather than pushing myself with quotes on positive mental attitudes.

By working through the extremely simple methodology he lays out in his talk, I realised that there were a number of deeper issues that was stopping me from moving forward.

Now, I’m not quite ready to tell you what exactly my goal is yet, but I’m definitely feeling a lot more confident about being able to achieve it thanks to Tim.

He mentions a philosophy that relates to his practice: stoicism.

I knew nothing about stoicism until I heard his talk, but looking into the subject I’ve realised it is right up my street!

It’s defined as the following:

The endurance of pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint.

It sounds kind of harsh, but if you investigate further you’ll find that it simply means accepting that there are many physical and mental factors that are out of our control, however we have the capability to train our minds to deal with hardship through our thoughts.

I’ve talked many, many times about the importance of shifting paradigms, to better understand a situation and this is no different. When I’ve looked at Stephen Coveys paradigm shift stories in the past I’ve always spoke about using it to see how a situation affects others. From what I’ve read so far, stoicism seems very much about helping yourself. Self-preservation, self-control. Important skills which I’m pretty sure we could all do with some help on.

Rather than me continue to bore you, I recommend taking just ten minutes out of your night to have a watch of Tim’s talk.

If like me, you’ve been struggling to hit your goals, struggling to reach for that dream, maybe you too need to look at things differently. Sometimes we need to address the tough stuff in order to ease us on our way…

 

 
How are you getting on with your goals? Has anyone achieved there’s yet? How do you motivate yourself? Any tips are most welcome!! 

 

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One of the things I’ve come to realise over the past year or so, is that I am completely out of touch with all things tv. When I’m at work, every day there is some conversation about the latest tv series, people exchanging opinions on their favourite scenes, plot twists and characters. It doesn’t end there either, as when I get home the conversation seems to continue between friends on facebook, twitter… etc.

TV for me is something I tend to put on in the background, for noise, distraction – I sort of dip in and out of shows – with no real desire to see any of it through (just knowing the ending is enough for me!).

What I have discovered though, is as my love for TV has diminished, in it’s place my love for indulging in TED videos has grown. In 2014 I was able to take my passion to the next level when I volunteered at my local TEDx event, TEDxSalford, and hopefully I will get the opportunity to get involved with TEDx again some time in the near future. But for now, I have to settle with expanding my mind through the internet instead.

If you don’t know what the devil I’m talking about when I say ‘TED’ (and no it is not the bad ass teddy who’s friends with Mark Wahlberg), its a non-profit organisation devoted to sharing ideas through short and often quite powerful talks. To know more I suggest you click here -> TED.com <- and check this baby out.

I spend my week saving headlines that interest me, I’ve found depending on my mood that interest differs greatly. But I have pretty much learnt something from every single video I have watched, and it’s for that reason that I’ve decided I’d like to share some of my favourites with you.

This month my interest has, like most people, been focused on goals, success – making a plan for a better future. I’ve been encouraging people to join in on my Davina inspired ‘This time next year‘ project so I thought why not choose TED talks that have helped me when I’m thinking of taking on challenges, a helping hand for setting and achieving goals.

So here are my top 3 TED talks to help you prepare for the year ahead:

 

Matt Cutts: Try something new for 30 days

If you’re new to TED, I’m easing you in with this one as this talk is no more than four minutes. Matt’s talk is perfect for those who are attempting to keep resolutions, or perhaps he’ll simply inspire you to think of something new to try just for the sake of it. I’m definitely up for trying this challenge at some point this year.

 

 

Amanda Palmer: The art of asking

This is not one of the first TED talks I watched, BUT it is one of the first TED talks that actually stuck with me. Amanda’s words have stuck with me even to this day, I remember her talk years down the line as what she said completely addressed an issue I’ve always struggled with. Trusting people. Accepting help.

 

 

Isabel Allende: How to live passionately – no matter your age

The famous novelist reminds us all that it doesn’t matter how old you are, you should never stop living passionately!

 

 

 

Can you recommend any other TED talks on the topic of setting up or achieving goals? Or do you have a suggestion for next months topic?

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I wrote this post a few days ago, and its a little bit out of the norm but I felt I should put it up. Although it is mostly about my personal journey it is actually based on an amazing event that is held here in Salford at the Lowry theatre. It’s an event I highly recommend and one I can’t wait to get back involved with next year.

The last few months have been an emotional rollercoaster for me personally. In June I started a new job as a Travel Alerts Coordinator for a Business Travel management company, a role I hoped would put me amidst one of my favourite past times, learning about the world.

Boy have I learnt a lot about the world. View Post

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